Are you a woman who thinks you can change a man? Are you a man tired of this?

This might be a hard dose of reality but I think it is needed when I look around to see all the pain that both men and women are going through in failed romance and relational poverty.

A woman will never be able to change a man. Sorry this is the truth. There are many reasons for this and you can read them on our FACEBOOK PAGE HERE.

Here is some heartfelt advice if you are a woman who is frustrated with men not willing to change:

Make your expectations realistic PLEASE.

In today’s world, romance has been fantasized to very unhealthy proportions. Things have to be PERFECT because popular culture tells us we can have it all. This is just not true. Romantic relationships are HARD WORK? Why? They are just preparation for marriage which are ALSO HARD WORK. The scary thing is what happens when all the romance seems to die once the honeymoon is over. But the true secret of romance comes when a couple can overlook their Gaps and make the relationship about Life.

Draw some boundaries based on REAL CONVICTIONS.

You are going to have to decide on what you are prepared to live with. Then draw the line and stick with it. DO NOT COMPROMISE. But do make these boundaries on convictions of your heart and not superficial values. Too often I see women breaking their own boundaries by allowing men to dictate what they believe. The classic example is a woman who wishes to abstain from sex who is manipulated by a man who says, “I need you to show that you really love me.” Sound like a bad high school script? Yes it does, but sadly it happens all the time, just not so obvious.

Prepare to accept that some things will NEVER CHANGE.

Love is really accepting someone despite the fact you may NEVER agree. Sometimes we make big deals out of things that should be inconsequential. If it doesn’t break your convictions, LET IT GO. You are just begging to start a disrespectful and unloving fight over nothing.

Be an INSPIRATION to men… again this part is in our discussion on our FACEBOOK PAGE HERE.