Another point here is to consider getting a second opinion on things. If that fruit isn’t coming out well, maybe someone else has a suggestion on where to look or what to do to find a root cause. We aren’t born with the answer to every question we’ll ever ask, so sometimes we need to reach out for help and ask. It can also be a good test of a relationship in some cases to reach out and ask. I know I did last night and now I have to wait to see what fruit this will bring. Forgiveness can be an awesome thing.

It reminds me of John Gray and Barbara De Angelis, who were a couple and each had relationships books or infomercials out there. Gotta love those love gurus that know so little about love. Maybe I’m starting to become a bit jaded, too.

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“It’s just the way I am,” tends to show a few things as I can understand wanting to give that as a response for some things in my life. If someone were to ask me why I think so much and analyse things to an almost endless degree, I may give that kind of response at times. Usually it would be out of frustration or fear of trying to dig deeper into myself. We are born with certain abilities. Not everyone can play golf like Tiger Woods or have the business sense that Warren Buffett has. Granted there was some work to develop the skill to the extent they have, but there was also some talent and desire to work on it, too. Some things come more easily than others, and thus we may choose to develop those earlier. Another factor is to consider what was the initial motivation for doing something.

Why do I seem to know a ton of stuff? Part of it comes from growing up that I saw knowledgeable people and was, “Hey, I’d like to be like that,” or “That was cool to have those answers,” which may have skewed my development. I do get that I may have a rather high degree of value on knowledge compared to most people, but I can accept that about myself. Much like I accept that I can be sensitive and come to tears easily in many situations. I may start to become less stubborn, which may be a relief to some but may vex others in my life.

I just noticed that nowhere in the lesson is the word, “Dating,” that seems strange to me in a sense. My parents did play a bit of a role in terms of how I view dating as while they didn’t divorce, I didn’t see them as a happy couple which may have contributed some to my lack of desire to date in my life. I suppose I could analyze for months what I got out of my childhood, but I’d question the value of that. I am where I am now, and in a strange way still have similar options that I had years ago when I moved to Seattle. What do I want to do? What do I want to be when I grow up? Those are interesting questions that while for some they are easy, they just aren’t that way for me. I think I’ve spewed out enough for a comment here, though maybe we could discuss this some more Ed.

For myself, this brings back eerie memories of when I went to see my mother back in the fall of 2001, where she was just so transformed in terms of voice changes and weight loss that while it was a head that was similar to what I remember, the rest just wasn’t the same. While my mother’s tale is tragic, there are a few other points to note, like I was living in Seattle, Washington while she was with my father and sister in Chatham, Ontario and this was a couple of months after 9/11 so flying on a plane wasn’t exactly the easiest thing to do along with leaving where I worked that was in a bit of flux as my employer wasn’t in great shape at the time. Hopefully this is useful and not bringing others down as that isn’t my intent.

Hopefully your brother taught you a few things and you are better person for having had the experiences you did. I do applaud your acknowledging your feelings throughout what you’ve written as I’m still working on acknowledging my feelings some of the time.

To be a bit more specific, I’m thinking of those times of how to diffuse those situations that could lead to abusive or violent actions. Another way to put that is, “How to handle those situations where words are being thrown like verbal punches?”